I find this really encouraging and a bit dreamy at the same time. I wish love never has to base everything on the bad side or even the physical condition and/or actions.
I just wish, anyway.
“The truth is that the more intimately you know someone, the more clearly you’ll see their flaws. That’s just the way it is. This is why marriages fail, why children are abandoned, why friendships don’t last. You might think you love someone until you see the way they act when they’re out of money or under pressure or hungry, or tired for goodness’ sake. Love is something different. Love is choosing to serve someone and be with someone in spite of their filthy heart and indifferences. Love is patient and kind, love is deliberate. Love is hard. Love is pain and sacrifice, it’s seeing the darkness in another person and defying the impulse to jump ship.”
We must first learn to “partner ourselves” and then we can truly partner another.
Fulfilling love is a long journey. It has many twists and turns. It will surprise us and delight us. It will confuse us. It is a great read. But when we find the great love within ourselves, we have a chance of finding that great love with another. When we can embrace our own “filthy heart”, we will not fear that of the other. -source