Keep Calm and Stop Assuming

In this life, it is easy to judge a person just by the appearance, behavior, some known details and the most common thing, the way everyone talks about him/her, whether true or not.  At times, we take our chance to grasp for definitions that will help distinguish a person, but most of the times we don't really mind at all. So what? When it's "what you see, what you get." Nothing more.  Just to fulfill the need to know and replace the need to communicate so it happened, we instantly believe. It is merely the idea of thinking based on what is only visible and noticeable.

How appallingly unfair could that possibly be? How about the silent cry of truth behind everything?

Eyes and Ears
Not everything we see is what it seems to be happening, it could be the other way around or none at all. Just because you've been looking at it for so long doesn't mean you can see right through it every time you do look at it. It's possibly more of your own version of thinking and seeing things. Thus, anyone can stare blindly at anything, but it takes deep concentration and fair understanding to actually see what is underneath.

Not everything we hear, even how detailed it could be means it is real enough to believe in.  Just like they say, there's a difference between knowing somebody and hearing about somebody. Just because you heard doesn't mean you know.  Especially if it's just a piece of abstract thoughts to begin with. Without even any basis to prove it's factuality. Well, sneaky assumptions can be tempting sometimes right? Just that it can be cruelly offensive especially if it went overboard.

Moreover, there are these situations that we tend to assume every thing seen or heard because we become blinded by our sudden gash of emotions and often clouded by personal reasons (might be anger, envy, jealousy and the like) we hide to ourselves. Maybe, we're too afraid to ask or just too busy to care. True, it is easier to believe anything that one has heard a thousand times than to believe a fact that no one has seen or even heard before. But if you really cared about the person, no single thing can change your perception about them.  Though, it's a common thing that some people are being complacent with what they only want to know. It turns out to be an instant judgement rather than intelligent reasoning of what it's supposed to be.

Yet sometimes, even someone make assumptions or judge us, we don't really need to explain anything to them because there isn't a better explanation for someone who judged you already even before asking. And explanations are not necessary for those who know the real you and not because Google or any other source tells it so.


Pain alters Personality
Everyone has a story, there's a reason why they're the way they are. So we really aren't suppose to judge people coz we never know what kind of battle they are fighting or what they have gone through the times of their existence. People has their own reasons why they act the way they do, that sudden changes and/or the way they deal with life and their surroundings. And those reasons which sometimes, they just want to keep to themselves.

Oftentimes, we don't really need to know every truth in the world. What we don't know won't hurt us and what we ought to know sometimes will just hurt us too much. In the end, it's all about giving every person the benefit of the doubt and fair respect as well.

"While you judge me by my outward appearance, I am silently doing the same to you, even though there's a ninety-nine percent chance that in both cases our assumptions are wrong. " 

Before you assume, learn the facts.

Before you judge, understand why.