What do broken hearts really need?
A mighty glue to stick the broken pieces together?
Someone to pick it up and fix it?
Or to simply let go of what keeps it breaking?
For the broken hearteds, they would always say, "
Move on.."
But it would be more appropriate to say, "First..learn to
let go."
Many of us thought that
Moving on and
Letting go come together. but thinking about it, there's a line in between that shows their difference from each other. The confounding truth is, you can never truly move on if you don't let go.
For me, I believe
MOVING ON is attempting to escape misery, to try so hard to forget the memories, to instantly want to eject from your mind whatever bad things that has happened, to stay away from everything that hurts. Leaving all the pain someplace where it still exists and where it can still haunt you anytime. Digging a deep black hole and wanting to bury everything in there. It's like trying to move on with your life but in reality you're just standing still..and still on that same ground where you were left behind. The pain still lingers. Your broken pieces still scattered everywhere.
While
LETTING GO is allowing your heart to feel what it wants to feel at the moment of your affliction. You let your emotions rule over. If your heart still persist to love, then let it. Let it love as much as it can. Even if it means loving in silence or in vain. It couldn't hurt any more because the fact that you are in deep pain already. Let it hurt if it is hurting so much. Feel hate but not so much hatred coz it might destroy you. Let tears flow freely if you feel like crying. Don't hold back. Breakdown if you need to. Don't force your heart to be okay and happy, when deep inside you know it's bleeding and terribly aching. Let those kind of emotions prevail. In time, you will see, the more you embrace pain, the less torturing those pains will be. You'll be surprised then that your tears had run dry, your sadness and pain slowly fading, how you can enjoy going out again without being bitter,
if by any chance, going in the same places you have been with your past and how magically the weight in your chest feels so light. That's when you finally knew that you are indeed, learning the art of letting go.
You have to wholeheartedly accept the reality that no matter how much love you give and how much you hold on, some people aren't really meant to stay in your life.
To move on is to leave something behind.
To finally let go is to unleash everything.
Yes, we all know that letting go is not a one-time process and it may be really very very hard at first. These are some ways to keep in mind that will eventually help yourself to be out of all the heartaches.
Easier said than done..ugh ikr.
Don't keep anything.
(keeping even the movie stub!)
Remove connections.
(please is it like a wire or something?)
Stop caring.
(oh been so careless lately)
No more stalking.
(ugh just making sure the person's alive and okay)
No more hang ups.
(still can endure)
Not even hopes for a second chance.
(that's harsh enough)
Nothing left to hold on to that will only drag your old feelings back anytime.
(okay reality check)
When you had finally let go, when you let your heart savored all of those tormenting feelings, when you let the tears been all cried out, your heart will eventually heal on it's own.
With or without someone to help you get fixed, the broken pieces will naturally mend and you will feel
WHOLE AGAIN. With no signs of hatred, no burden, no guilt, no regrets. Not even a single memory of pain to look back. Just a memory of someone whom you used to love so much. Old silly memories that would simply just make you laugh.
Overall, it really doesn't matter how long it takes you to forget and finally let go of someone, all that matters is. in the end you have succeeded on it. And those experiences you had
from which you should learn will only make you a little bit more wiser and those pains felt will only make you stronger than ever.
And if someday you are to find love again,
which I'm sure you will, it will come to you in the most astonishing way with the most unexpected person at the rightest time of your life. Dont rush. Keep in mind this famous saying,
"Love when you're ready, not just because you're lonely."
